...Thanks, I hope you were able to read what I wrote.
Anywho, I had a thought at dinner today, that really clicked with some thoughts I've been having for a while.
Now, I'll be the first to admit, I'm really weird. Especially when it comes to general guy type things. I can think like both guys and girls, I actually do analyze actions and purposes, and do occasionally have a real thought in my head.
But one of the things that people usually think is extra weird is that if I like a girl, but there's someone else that likes her, I will almost always back off, and let the other guy pursue her unopposed. I know that this goes against most people's romantic ideas of dating, and I generally go against a lot of those anyway. The phrase that popped into my head today was "The only person you should fight against for love is yourself." And that really fit with that idea, I thought.
See, love is all about unselfishness, putting others before yourself, caring more about someone else's bad day than your own kinda thing. But our own human nature is to put ourselves first, to become infatuated with that person, and wanting to be with them no matter what the cost. That's the opposite of what big L Love is. There is an aspect of love, called Eros, that is about yearning to be with the object that is feeling the love. But more important that Eros of is Caritas love, Charity, loving them more than yourself.
I think that Chris Rice does an excellent job of phrasing it in his song, "What a Heart is Beating For"
"
Brace yourselves, take a good look around
We've all been thinking upside-down
That love's about what life can bring our way
Oh but love isn't love unless someone pays
And so with love, the only way to gain
Is give it all away
Is give it all away!
Why be afraid
No reason to hide
Take the chance
Put it all on the line
Draw in a deep breath and throw open the door
'Cause that's what a heart is beating for"
Comments (1)
Good one on the song and the idea. If it is going to be yours, it won't have to be a contest.